Super-Hero Courage

This last week I was a part of a conference that isn’t your typical conference. Especially for women. This conference deals with issues that aren’t talked about much. Especially in the church.
We’re talking about porn addiction, sexual addictions, alcohol addiction… the things that aren’t seen with the eye, but they still exist.


I got to speak on the opening night. I shared my story of abortions – the shame and regret, the fear of being found out, the holy breakdown I had with God, the healing, the freedom.

The following day I was honored to present two Workshops on the topic.

And the closing day I was a part of a Q&A Panel that addressed some very deep questions.

I personally witnessed women choosing to break down their walls. I saw them fighting it – but still choosing to kick them down. I watched them realize that the arduous process of kicking those bricks down was far better than the pain of being imprisoned by them.

On my flight home I was thinking about all the women I met. I was touched by their presence. I was blown away by their courage. To choose to register for, and actually show up to, a conference of this nature takes courage. Then, to choose to share and be vulnerable… that’s a whole super-hero level of courage.

Healing is hard. Airing your dirty laundry is risky. But you know what I saw? It only took one woman to respond, to open up, before the next woman would open up… and then the next, and so on.

[Tweet “There is power in our stories. And there is mighty power in sharing our stories.”]

[Tweet “I believe that sharing our stories gives others permission to be courageous in sharing theirs.”]

We need to lock arms and live our journey together; holding one another up. The person next to you may not think like you, look like you, share the same struggle as you, or believe what you believe… but at our core – we all want to connect, belong, find a safe place to BE.

I am a better person today having met those brave women last week.

And I was reminded that we all have a story and a battle. Every single one of us.

As you go about your week and meet up with friends, meet a new friend, stand behind a tense person in line at Target – remember that we all have a story. Share a kind word, whisper a silent prayer, go the extra mile.

You never know whose battle you might bless.

7 thoughts on “Super-Hero Courage

  • Thanks for this further insight. It was a blessing to hear your story Tam & to have your daughter gift us with her beautiful voice…….closing your time up with beautiful worship together.
    I was in attendance with 4 other women in my group. The one thing that God layed on my heart, prior to this weekend, was a burden for women who suffer in silence.

    You are so dead on that every one has a story and going the extra mile to show compassion & empathy towards othets will make the world a better place.


  • Tam,Your story was a very powerful one from all angles. Confession even to speak it to God is so amazing and releasing. . I am so glad you made me realize this. I regularly see a counselor but there is so much more power hearing from someone who has been through it.

    Thank you so much for sharing your story.
    Barbara Roil

  • Tam,
    I have the privilege of knowing your in-laws (mom and dad). I am currently wheeling around in a wheel chair, but all fun things come to an end, thank goodness in this case.!! Because of this, they have done so much to help me, which I know does not surprise you. Visits, food and much laughter. There is nothing better than hearing your mom laugh.

    They told me about you and your book and brought me a copy the other day along with some very yummy soup Linda had made. I am in the process of reading the book now. The soup is about gone.

    I was heart broken to hear about the robbery on your way home. I pray God will see to it that some or all of the money is returned and those people are found.

    I will be contributing to your mission for the next year. I hope that others will learn from what you are doing and not take the violent route to try to solve issues.

    Blessings to you and your family, Gerri Kosciuk Medford, OR

    • Oh Gerri… I am such a big fan of my in-laws! No, it does not surprise me to read that they have been a help to you. They are the definition of Servants. I love them dearly!
      Thank you so very much for your contribution to Storks. Reading this tonight was like getting a heart hug straight from the Lord.

      We are trusting He will turn this robbery into a beautiful story of his provision and faithfulness!

      Hope you get out of that wheelchair soon! Please keep me posted. And when you see my mom and dad again… hug them for me!!

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