That is crazy.
Wow! That’s insane!
Oh-my-word – I totally look “special“.
These are phrases I have said more often than I care to admit. You see, I have become much more aware of my words. I am mindful to measure my words daily. Words are powerful – you can’t take them back. But most of us say things that are hurtful and we don’t even realize it. Take for instance my phrases above. I have a good friend who has a mental illness. After a late night talk with her I was deeply convicted by my own words – words I throw around as if they’re harmless. Words like crazy and insane.
When my son went to Haiti two years ago he came back home and vowed that he would never say again that he was “starving”. He realized he had no idea what that even felt like… to be starving. It broke him in all the right ways.
You may know that I am working on a project for churches that will provide them resources to engage the abortion-minded and post-abortive community. I have spent the last several weeks researching and creating surveys to get a better pulse on our culture and its way of communicating in this dialogue. Sadly, I have been shocked by how often abortion is referred to as murder and a sin. Yes, in the church it is such. Abortion is ending a life. We know that. But let me tell you… as a post-abortive woman who sat in the church, silent and dying inside from the abortions I had, hearing that what I did was murder only caused me to shut down more. I already knew that – I did not need to be told that time and time again…. It only perpetuated my guilt, my shame, and my fear of being found out. Those words did nothing to make me feel safe in my church home.
So, I have dedicated this season of my life to ensure that every woman and man, who sits in their church will be met with a new narrative. Because Church… you need to be their safe place. No one ever changed their mind by being yelled at or condemned. Do not assume that your congregation is unaware of their depravity… they are aware. Your job is to make them aware of a God who can redeem them – remind them of a God who is full of forgiveness, grace, and mercy. Empower them with Gods truths instead of devaluing them with polarizing rhetoric. It is time for a change. And this change is what I am committed to.
If you would like to learn more about what I’ve been up to you can visit HERE. I would love any support you can give… especially prayers!!!